Am I losing my mind?

[Sandysmom]

I lost my dog Sandy February 6, 2007. It has been very hard. I was wondering if any of you guys who have lost your dogs have had the same experiences I am having. I have been seeing my dog everywhere. We have a throw cover on our couch where Sandy used to love to sit, and I see his face all over the cover on the patatern. When I go to sleep at night, we have a night light, and I see Sandy's reflection looking at me all over the room from the pattern of the light on the wall. Is it my imagination or I dont want to sound crazy, but could it be him watching over me?

[Scully'sMom]

First of all, I am so very sorry for your loss. I don't know about what you're experiencing, but I can tell you that in my life when I lost my dad there were MANY instances where I knew he was around. For quite awhile after I lost my first Cairn Ginger, I thought I saw little glimpses of her running past me. I also heard her barking and my mom experienced that as well.

To my way of thinking, I believe that pets and humans we lose try to let us know they are okay.

[Kramersmom]

I feel the same way. I know my dear father and my first cairn Missy watch over for me and watch out for me.

When I'm thinking alot about them I often see them more. A light will flicker or something unusual and I know that is there way of telling me there ok. My dad has been gone now 18 years and I know he is watching over me, I feel the presents of them. Missy has been gone 2 years, I miss her like it was yesterday. I try to keep in mind, she is in a better place, healthy and young again, causing havoc with her grandpa. You are by no means crazy. I think its there ways up above to let us know, they are still close by. They're forever in our hearts!

[Sandysmom]

Thank you for your replies. I have really been missing him. I just hope he is happy and isn't wondering what happened to him. It seems to be getting harder instead of better. Thanks for listening. This Board is wonderful. I wish I had found it when I first got Sandy.

[Darc]

We lost our Toto on Nov 9, 2006. It has been only in the last month or so that I can think about him and not start to cry. He truly was our little buddy. To make matters worse, his passing was anything but peaceful, and our other dog was depressed for about 3 weeks. That is why we now have Piper. He is no replacement and is a totally different dog. But I am grateful to my vet for offering him to us. Time does heal all wounds and eventually only the happy thoughts will remain.

[goforette]

I think it took me over a year when I lost my Westie before I actually had a handle on the pain and loss. I suffered tremendously as she was my soul dog and the very best friend I ever had. Everyone encouraged me to quickly obtain another dog but I couldn't. It took me almost six years to find the courage and the stregnth to do this again. And I see a lot of my Westie in Hollie - so much so that it's both eerie and comforting at the same time. So the reminder is there but in a really beautiful way. Dreams are common - sometimes you'll wake up and before you really realize it, you're dreaming that furry face is still there, and isn't. It does get easier - but it takes a lot of time - even in my case sometimes years. Sending you all my well wishes

[travieso]

OMG. We lost our dalmation almost 8 years ago to a horrible car accident. The next night me and my mom could hear his little tags as if he were running along the side of the house like he used to, and then it got worse, we would hear his barking through the vent ducts. it only happened the night after. We didn't want a dog for a long time because his lost was really hard on us.

[kayharley]

I think it all comes down to this....someday we will be reunited with all our loved ones who have left this earth before we did. I believe it with all my heart.

[Scully'sMom]

I think it all comes down to this....someday we will be reunited with all our loved ones who have left this earth before we did. I believe it with all my heart.

I agree, and believe the same, wholeheartedly.

[Bobber]

I could not get another dog after I lost my yorkshire terrier Suzie during the holidays in 2003. She was very ill and I had to wrestle with myself for a month to let her go. About a week after she was euthanized, I had a dream that she was with me in the living room watching TV with my room mate and his pup. The room mate asked me what was Suzie doing here and I said she came to tell us about Pepper his pup. The very next day I had to call my room mate from work about strange behavior from Pepper. We rushed the pup to the vet and he almost died from eating rat poisioning somewhere. That weekend we fenced the yard. That pup could have died if not for Suzie's warning in that dream. I saw her with me everywhere for quite awhile, riding with me in the car, coming to meet me when I came home, etc. I finally got BB six months ago, and he is a love, but I still have a picture of Suzie in my bedroom. I am so sorry for your loss.

[Will&Grace]

Sandy's Mom, I am very sorry for your loss. Please don't think you are crazy - I am sure you are not. I lost Mr Mack in Nov 05 and I was miserable without him and so very worried about him. Worried with the crazy thoughts of the mind - mostly worried that somehow he didn't know how very much I loved him as he had to spend the last few days of his short life in the Vet Hospital. Anyhow, he came to me in a dream one night and he was healthy and happy and in the dream gave me some of his famous little kisses. From the night of the dream on, I knew he was okay and I also knew that he understood what happened and loved me and he knew I loved him - so very very much. I think of him nearly everyday and miss him terribly. I now have Will and he is such a little lover. Never a replacement - but a joyous way to love again. My thoughts will be with you as you go through this most difficult time. Be easy with yourself - it takes awhile, for some of us - a long while. Peace to you and your family.

[Mike P]

First, I am so sorry for your loss. Second, you are not crazy. My better half, Tammy, and I can relate to your loss. Tammy and I lost Bandit, a 12 year old miniature pinscher, to cancer on October 9, 2006. He was Tammy's baby boy for 12 years and my best-est buddy for 6 years. We still see him every where we look. Just this past Sunday we were watching ABC's Extreme home Makeover and found ourselves both sobbing and in tears when a country star sang a song of losing a loved one. I can't tell you when you will get over your loss but I can tell you that it does get easier with time. I lost my brother in 2000 and I still think of him and cry. Bandit's death is still fresh in my mind and I am not sure how long it will take me to get over him. Heck, I am tearing up just typing this. I really don't mean to dwell on my losses but more to the point. I think that all of the people and fur babies that have gone before us watch over us. They visit us in our thoughts, dreams and lives. Sometimes even in what we smell hear and taste. No loss is easy but the comfort that we have is that we will see them again on the other side of the rainbow bridge. A saying that we had put on Bandit's urn really brings it all into perspective... "If love could have kept you alive you would have lived forever." I will see you again someday little buddy... And I assure you that you too will someday see your fur baby again on the other side of that beautiful bridge...

[toomanypaws]

I am so sorry for your loss. You are not at all crazy. Sandy will always be a part of you. Some wounds never heal. It's been over 5 yrs since I lost my choc.lab, Mousse. It does get easier, but there are still times I miss him to the point of tears. I found this poem when I created his website that I'm sure you can relate to. The author is unknown.

"We have a secret, you and I that no one else shall know.

For who but I can see you lie each night in fire glow?

And who but I can reach my hand before we go to bed

and feel the living warmth of you and touch your silken head?

And only I walk woodland paths and see ahead of me,

your form racing with the wind so young again and free.

And only I can see you swim in every book I pass

and when I call, no one but I can see the bending grass."

Again, I am sorry you are suffering. It took me a long time to quit stepping over Mousse in the middle of the night. It seemed like it took me forever to quit "seeing" him standing in the hallway.

[Cairnmania]

Such a beautiful poem, but oh man, I have to stop crying ... I lost Moxie (a Yorkie) 5 years ago this August and it hurts like yesterday.

I wish I could remember who wrote the poem that was written from the dog's point of view ... it talks about the greatest gift of remembering is to bring a another dog into the (human's) life.

[toomanypaws]

This sums it all up for me.

Fragile Circle

"We who choose to surround ourselves with lives even more temporary than our own,

live within a fragile circle, easily and often breached.

Unable to accept its awful gaps, we still would live no other way.

We cherish memory as the only certain immortality,

never fully understanding the necessary plan."

Irving Townsend.

Here's some more healing and inspirational poetry. Please note, you might need some kleenex.

http://www.petloss.com/poems/poems.htm

[Amber and the zoo]

wow. Powerful words. I got chills. Thank you.

[Sandysmom]

It has made me feel so much better reading all of your responses. They truly are our special little angels. I hope to get another cairn again someday, I never realized all of the joy he would bring me. It is just a little too soon for me right now though. Thank you again everyone.

[Sandysmom]

It has made me feel so much better reading all of your responses. They truly are our special little angels. I hope to get another cairn again someday, I never realized all of the joy he would bring me. It is just a little too soon for me right now though. Thank you again everyone.